"The back-to-school season is an exciting time for many families, but it can also bring about a range of emotions, especially for children experiencing separation anxiety," says Angelyn (Angel) L. Tarrant, MD, Pediatrics at ARC Round Rock. "Understanding what separation anxiety is and knowing how to manage it can make the transition smoother for both you and your child."
What is separation anxiety?
Separation anxiety is a common emotional response where children feel anxious or fearful when separated from their primary caregivers. It's a normal part of child development, typically starting around the age of 6-8 months and often peaking between 18 months and 3 years old. However, it can persist into the school years, causing distress when children are away from home or their parents.
Symptoms of separation anxiety
Separation anxiety can manifest through various symptoms that affect a child's mental health and daily interactions. Common indicators include bed-wetting and nightmares, which can disrupt sleep and add to their stress. These children may also experience social anxiety, finding it challenging to engage in typical social interactions. The constant worrying can sometimes escalate into a full-blown panic attack. It's essential to provide emotional support and closely monitor these symptoms. If the anxiety significantly impacts the child's well-being, a referral to a mental health professional may be necessary to ensure they receive appropriate care and interventions. Learn more about ARC Pediatric Mental Health.
Tips to manage separation anxiety
- Find a routine that works: Establishing a consistent routine can provide a sense of security and predictability for your child. Create a morning and evening routine that includes activities they enjoy, such as reading a book, having breakfast together, or a special goodbye ritual. Routines help children know what to expect, reducing anxiety and making transitions smoother. Start practicing the routine a few weeks before school begins to give your child time to adjust.
- Meet the teacher: Introducing your child to their teacher before the school year starts can significantly ease their anxiety. Attend any meet-and-greet events or arrange a visit to the classroom. This helps your child become familiar with their new environment and the people they will interact with. Let them spend some time in the classroom, explore the space, and meet their teacher. A friendly, welcoming environment can make the first day of school less intimidating.
- Encourage your child to try new things: Encouraging your child to explore new activities and experiences can boost their confidence and reduce anxiety. Sign them up for extracurricular activities, playdates, or new hobbies that interest them. Positive experiences outside of school can help them build resilience and a sense of independence. Celebrate their bravery in trying new things and reassure them that it's okay to feel nervous.
- Practice goodbyes: Practicing goodbyes can help your child become more comfortable with separation. Start with short periods apart and gradually increase the duration. Create a special goodbye routine, like a hug, a wave, or a "secret handshake," to make goodbyes predictable and reassuring. Avoid sneaking out without saying goodbye, as this can increase anxiety and mistrust. Make sure to stay calm and confident during the goodbye, as your demeanor can greatly influence your child's emotions.
"Back-to-school separation anxiety is a common challenge, but with patience and the right strategies, you can help your child navigate this transition with ease," says Dr. Tarrant. "Remember, every child is unique, so be flexible and responsive to their needs. With your support and understanding, your child will be well on their way to a successful and happy school year.
Make an appointment today
ARC Pediatrics doctors focus on a full range of services for patients from birth through 18 years. We offer appointments to fit your schedule and lifestyle, including regular clinic visits, telemedicine visits, Same-Day visits, After Hours appointments, and 24/7 phone nurses.
Dr. Tarrant is accepting new patients, newborn to 18 years old, at ARC Round Rock. To make an appointment, call 512-244-9024 or schedule online through ARC MyChart or ARC Help Me Book.